Perfectionism is mistakenly seen in our society as a desirable trait or necessity for success. Focusing on the small details and flaws costs allot time and energy, which can also reduce productivity and efficiency. Thoughts are very inflexible and dominated by many ‘’shoulds’’. The unrealistic and unattainable standards of perfections eliminates experiencing satisfaction. It seems that it is ever good enough. It can also lead to procrastination, stress, self-criticism, an unstable self- esteem, feelings of anxiety and total avoidance. One fears failure, disapprovals, shame and rejection.
What can we do to reduce the perfectionism beside setting more flexible and realistic standards and goals for ourselves?
- Learn to focus on the process and enjoying every moment of it, instead of focusing on the result of the goal. Success lies in enjoying what you do, your growth, your efforts, progress and determination in pursuing the goals, rather than the end result itself. There your will find your energy, positive emotions and you will also strengthen your self-esteem and self-efficacy.
- If perfectionism is paralyzing you, define what it is that you are really afraid of. What is the worse that can happen? How will you deal with that?
- Reflect- how is perfectionism helping me in my life?
Try it and see what you think. Are you feeling more energy and positive emotions now?